On the other hand, just being kind and hospitable seems to flirt with others. However, I find that a lot of times men or women flirt with him. Keep your hands, money, menu, or anything else out of the air. Our two waiters weighed in on this separately.
Snapping your fingers, shaking your hands (unless you're behind a dozen people and they can't see you unless you do), shaking the menu in the air, whistling, yelling or repeating “SORRY” when you're in sight of the bar will cause them to ignore you. Keep your money at the bar until someone is there to catch it waving bills in the air as if your waiter were a stripper makes you look desperate, not rich. He might call you back, he might not, right now he's in the air, just be patient and take your time, don't get too emotional, let things simmer and let him make a move, as well as keep your eyes open for other men who might interest you, take it easy and just talk and meet guys, it doesn't have to be an automatic date or initiation, and you don't have to worry about interest so quickly just because you really think you like a guy you barely know.
